Friday after Thanksgiving

We had a marvelous THANKSGIVING day.  Daughter Melanie and husband Paul, my sister Charlotte and husband Glenn prepared all the food, brought to our house, and the six of us feasted.  Earlier I prepared our Phlegar (my grand father’s tradition) breakfast – oyster stew for June and me.  We put up a fellowship hall type table in the den so June could be part of the dinner.  A little extra work but it was worth it.  Also Paul and Melanie put up my big Christmas tree in the living room, and a cyber optic tree in the den.  It is getting too much for me to lift and move these things.  I am waiting for my yard man to clear and mulch the leaves, and then I will put up the outdoor Nativity scene.  I am so tired.  I want to quit my job as SANTA at River Ridge Mall but I suspect they are dependent upon me, and the schedule is more demanding now as we get closer to Christmas.  The extra money helps.  It is pathetic how parents and grand parents try to get a four month old to SMILE for their photo….as if the child understands.

My book about caregiving continues to sell good, and if you know someone dealing with dementia, it would make an excellent Christmas gift.  It is easy to order online by clicking https://www.createspace.com/3699557  and choose ordinary postage. The company is quick in filling orders.  The book is only $12.99 plus shipping.

June has continued to have good days.  She sleeps good at night, and sleeps most mornings in her lift chair following bath and breakfast.  Most afternoons she is awake, talking, singing.

Today is called “Black Friday” in America because it is the major shopping day of the year with tremendous sales that will boost merchants out of the “red” into the “black” economy.  And I have to work as Santa from two to five o’clock in the afternoon.  Hopefully by then the major shopping fever will have subsided.  Have a blessed weekend, and may all be thankful for the blessings we do have.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

                                                                                                                                Today I have been in a rather sullen mood.   I guess I have a lot on my mind.  Holiday times are not pleasant days, and especially with Christmas coming, and June not able to share it with us.  Oh, physically she will be with us, but mentally she is in  a world of her own.  I have been working part time at the MALL as Santa to make a little extra money, and the fact that once-upon-a-time June and I were Mr. and Mrs. Claus together only compounds the sadness.

From the first diagnosis of her dementia my prayer has been that I outlive her so to be able to take care of her.  For some reason today it has been on my mind as to what I would do were I to be diagnosed with a terminal illness that would take me before her.  Morbid thoughts, but reality.  I sat at the Mall this afternoon “people watching”, and thought how many shoppers are going about their business in a nonchalant way, and I am thinking how I would live differently were I to be able to live the last 56 years all over again, knowing what I know now.  I would love June more deeply, cherish her more fully, enjoy her more completely.  We never realize what we have until we have lost it.

Daughter Melanie and Paul, sister Charlotte and Glenn, are preparing Thanksgiving dinner and will bring to our house.  We will all share together.  ”A Long Dark Night – A Caregiver’s Journey With Dementia” is selling good, and if you have not purchased your copy click on https://www.createspace.com/3699557  and place your order.  It is real easy.  $12.99 plus regular shipping.  It will make an excellent gift at Christmas for anyone dealing with dementia.

I wish you a Happy Thanksgiving.

Saturday, November 12

I have for some years been working on an autobiography, and yesterday submitted to the publisher a 310 page manuscript.  I don’t know how much interest will be in the book, but will let you know when it is available.  It tells the story of my life from conception to the present; all that is fit to print.

Today I begin work as Santa Claus at the River Ridge Mall in Lynchburg.  I will be working part time until Christmas, providing a little extra money in caring for June.  She is “holding-her-own” which means no major change.  We both have had bronchitis and on corrective medicines.  My right shoulder has been giving me pain and have an appointment on the 19th with my orthopedic doctor.  I had a total shoulder replacement in 1995 for that shoulder.  Old age is no fun!

My friend Bishop David Ga from the Philippines phoned this morning.  He is in Florida for a few months and finished reading “A Long Dark Night – A Caregiver’s Journey With Dementia” and said he was going to promote it for a movie when he gets back to the Philippines.  Have you purchased your copy?  It is easy to do and their service is fast.  Copy and paste https://www.createspace.com/3699557  or you may  be able to just click on the link to order.  $12.99 plus regular shipping.  Don’t request faster service.  They are quick.  I have book signing tomorrow at Forest Road United Methodist Church which is our home church from many years ago.  If you missed the newspaper story “Loving June” go to the previous BLOG and click on the link to the Lynchburg News and Advance.  Amy did a wonderful job reporting.  Have a blessed weekend.

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